Conflicts

How can conflict be managed

  Conflict happens in many consequences and it is a part of the life as well. The reasons people have conflicts around us are caused by cheating, misunderstanding, disagreements, attitude, feelings, etc. So the big ones such as world wars , Iraq war to the small conflicts such as quarrels, fights, play tricks on somebody and so on. Actually, sometimes conflicts can be successfully avoided by our own. Nice attitude, pre-think others’ feeling before you do it and a humble character can all solve the issues of conflicts. So the two ways of managing the conflicts are avoiding win-lose strategy and pre-thinking the result we want.  

  Many conflicts are caused by the competitions, races and kinds of the competitions which has a winner in the end. This kind of win-lose condition can judge the abilities of the person fairly. But it causes many conflicts. Causes comes from the touching of the body, the desire of winning, the different ideas in the same situation. But nowadays people have tried many ways in order to avoid the conflicts. They use other ways to judge the winner instead of the win-lose strategy. I think the procedure of competing and the experiences and knowledge is the most important part in the completion. Now let’s share some ideas of avoiding conflicts. First, if we work in a group. We mustn’t judge or criticize any group members. Then, we should impose the will of the group member instead of taking advantages of others. Besides, we should never express the serious dominance like criticizing others. A nice way of discussing with others is a better choice. Next one is reviewing. In order to continue the discussion, first we must participate in the discussion, second we should summarize what we have discussed and to make the plan to go on the discussion so we can find the solution as soon as possible. It’s very important because review can help us to find more problems we made and it can significantly reduce the risk of conflicts. So if we work in groups, the examples I had listed are the methods I can manage the conflicts. If we successfully avoid the mistakes we made, and we can avoid the conflicts in some aspects.

  If we want to take all the things into account, we must do the pre-thinking and do a complete plan for everything which might cause conflicts. Someone said:”Think before you act and act on what you believe”. It means that we must make a right decision and do it before you act. But, You knew how you were viewing the situation was not helpful, but you continued to let the doubts work against you. Or, those times that you behaved in a way that was not in line with how you know you should behave and handle situations. In instances like these, we are usually aware that what we are doing is not ideal, but we haven’t really identified the best way to break the cycle. So we should do more arrangement that can let us be out of the issues and the problems we are involve in. So pre-thinking can really help us to get out the problems and help us to avoid the conflicts.

  When you realize you are not responding in a way that is ideal, stop yourself and course correct. Better late than never. Don’t continue to go in the wrong direction if you can help it. Correct any thoughts you may have that are working against you. Choose to realize you made a mistake and turn things around immediately so you can move in a better direction. Conflicts are all because of the unaccomplished considerations and too much desire to win. If we handle both of them well. I think conflicts can be all avoided.

MOVIE REVIEWS 2! LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL

Life is beautiful- movie reviews

 plot

 The story should be chased back to 1939 , before the World War 2. Everything was started in a countryside in Italy. There was a smart boy called Guido, who was always very active and talked entirely. He had a good friend and they always drive their old car around the village. Make fun of everything, like all the boys, they began to be tempted by the girls in that age. As the plot goes, he fell in love with Dora(who is his real wife in the reality) when he tried to open a bookstore. Dora was a teacher and Guido really tried his best to be close to her, in Dora’s mind, it seems like everything is planned by the destiny. And then, they married and had a kid called Giosue, who is a very cute boy. And the true story, had just been started in this moment.

The time was fast forwarded to the period during the World War Two and their son was 5 years old. Unfortunately, they were separated by the Nazis and put into a concentration camp. Although the Nazis didn’t allow the child been taken with, Guido still keep his child in the camp secretly. They even had used their wisdom to use the camp speaker in order to send a message to their wife and mom, let Giosue pretend being a German child in order to let Giosue have a better care by the Germans. The kid were almost found in the German kids but the danger was head off fluently by Guido’s wisdom. When Guido was doing the labor, he hid Giosue in a iron box which can fit Giosue properly called the most safe place in the camp. Guido showed the most powerful side to his son but actually he was really weak after the labor. During that period in the camp, Guido told his son how fierce the chaos are and, hardship and suffering in the country are a game and that the winner will be awarded as a real tank when all the things were over. But once they tried to escape the room to find his wife, he was found by the Nazis. At that time, Giosue was looking at the Nazis holding a gun and aim to his father and Guido was killed. From the tiny iron box. But what the happy ending is that Giosue found his mom when the chaos are over while sitting in a real tank of the U.S army. His goal was reached in the end. But the real tank is the Incarnation of Guido as well as the paternal love from Guido.

  Theme and clue

  I think the theme of the movie is the paternal love from the daddy. He devoted himself to protect his son and gave him the best care and support Giosue to survive in this dangerous environment. I can see the strong desire from the behavior of Guido that how he expect the reunite of the family. He successfully escaped first time but he failed in the second time. I think the clue which throughout the whole story is the real tank. When the Germany soldier spoke to people in the same tiny room. Guido pretended that he knows German but actually doesn’t. He didn’t understand all the things what he was talking about. But he just changed all the instructor’s word into his own words which encouraged others and especially for his son. His son regarded the hope of tank as his goal in the period of the time in the camp and hi did never quit. But It is used to be a joke at first. But as we all see the result of the story. Giosue’s goal came true and the U.S soldier picked him up to the real tank. That moment, the environment is full of peace and happiness.

Feelings

  We all have the paternal love from our father. Some of our father are good at expressing their to you but some of them aren’t. But in my opinion, they all make efforts as much as they can in order to give us a better life. As a foreign student, my father is not beside me. After watching this moving story, l should spend more time to give him a call and tell him I am fine or not. Although it is just a common behavior, we can’t imagine how warm it is for our parents. We never imagine if our parents leave us, why not do more to our parents as much as we possible? That’s the reason we should cherish the paternal love and keep them at the bottom of the heart as the most valuable treasure in our life. I love you my daddy.

                                                                 

                                                                                                                                                      Tony

Essay on needs and wants

Essay on needs and wants

       

how can the definition of needs be differentiate from wants.

  Needs and wants are defined by different meanings. Needs mean the things are necessary for us. We have to get them to survive or to reach our purposes. Some people who are contented with a simple and economical life but they are still happy; Wants are the things they don’t have and they want to get for satisfying themselves and take something for granted. They pursue the luxurious life and ‘waste a lot of things’ in many perspectives. I think the needs come from the requirement of survival and the wants come from a sense of vanity and temptation.

Needs are the basic requirement of the human being for surviving. Basically consist of the materialistic needs and the spiritual ones. About the materialistic needs, such as air, food, water, nutrition, protein, the things we need to use in daily life. In general, materialistic needs are depend on different people because we all have different standards to distinguish the needs. The spiritual needs are technically consist of the love between families, the love between couples or between friends, the care come different walks of life, the donations from the society and many people believe one of the religions as their believes. They are called spiritual pillars which can make us feel being concerned. For example, lots of people live in a depressed environment with hopelessness. There are statistics about the needs in the poor areas. Over 1.1 billion people in the world live on less than one U.S. dollar per day.500 million people are hungry and another 500 million are so poor that they get too little food to be fully productive. Every day 25,000 people, many of them children, die from the results of dirty drinking water. They need the hope and spiritual pillars. So we should be completely contented with life we have given by our parents. In my opinion, needs are the things are easy to get in our life, but we should save the needs for people who are really need it.

  Wants are the things we have out of our control and most of them are come from the sense of vanity and temptation. They give us the maximum satisfaction. It can also defined as the desire and pursue. For example, my friend is using an iphone 3. But the iphone 4 is better than iphone 3 and then she bought the latest one. That’s why apple company is so attracted by the young people. And why the brands are so popular such as LV, GUCCI, PRADA, CHANNEL….They all catch the desire of the people want the luxurious life and it can show the position in the life. On the contrary, I cannot say wants are wrong because some people have enough money to satisfy themselves buying many things we seems like crazy. They enjoy the life with alcohol, fabulous cars, jewelry, great cuisine and do whatever they want. I think the most important for us define the wants and needs is to control ourselves depends on the self-ability. Don’t let the wants never stop.

  In conclusion, actually we all want a lot of things instead of keeping the basic needs in our life. But the most important thing is we should control our balance of the needs and wants. Actually it is not hard to make it, we should think more, take more into account. And I think the balance will be well controlled. Needs and wants are all around us. I think we can all be away from the vanity and the temptations.

Success

Different people have different angle to see work as success

  “Find somebody to be successful for. Raise their hopes. Think of their needs.”--Barack Obama.

Obviously, Being successful roles importantly in this 21th century. Economic is growing rapidly. No doubt that the people live in a society which is more and more competitive and cruel. There are too many temptation in this world cause many people to chase. Everyone wants to prove himself or herself as a successful man or woman. Most of the people might relate the success to the money. But the definition of success depends on the people who have different characters and different goals. I think success for some people can being healthy or spending time with their own family.
   I think being healthy is a part of success. People think highly of health problems and the cases of the cancer is significantly increased in the world. In one US study, in a company, 40% of the workers described their jobs are very stressful. Obviously nowadays the working environment is becoming more and more stressful. As the health records in the UK, the nursing and teaching occupations are most affected by work-related stress, 2% of workers are influenced by the stress-related environment, and it caused the depression and anxiety. And the situation about teachers rises to 4% when including physical conditions relating to stress. Care workers, managers and professionals are the next highest affected occupations, with over 1% suffering from serious work-related stress at any one time. The result was that work-related stress affects men and women in equal numbers, and that people in the middle age or older suffer more than younger people. And I was told many people keep working in a long term under the radiation get chronic sickness very often due to the bad air and the radiation. Especially for those people who work in the digital industry are easy to get cancer or even worse. So I think health is the priority we should seriously take in to considerate. If you got health, you can face things in a happy way and solve them positively.
Being responsible and spending time with family are also the symbol of success. Albert Einstein said ”Try not become a man of success but rather to become a man of value. ” I think own a happy family is a part of the value in the lifetime. The family is the only place you can share your emotions and happiness in a most relaxed way. Family is a place of spending your time and effort to concern about. It’s important to make the ‘big decisions’ – selecting careers and jobs, breeding children, being considerate and taking the and responsibilities, etc.­ Many people use a whole life to support a simple, small family. We should stop thinking of money and the position, just stay with the family as much as we can. Although working is important for us, but the balance between family and work should be controlled. Family is a shelter for any difficulties and blocks in our life which we must cherish it forever. I think the company with family can exceed everything which is a part of success. 
 What exactly is success? That’s still a question for everyone who hasn’t got success or who has got success already in the world. In my opinion, health and family is the basic success. And then after that, we can make efforts to our goals in the rest of our life. We are loved by others close to us and love others from our bottom of the heart. I think the Success is the love as long as it exists.

                                                                                                                                              Tony