Divorce

The number of individuals opting for divorce has been steady increasing over the past few years. Because the human society is becoming more and more competitive. The people nowadays are all working for their own career hard. Many couples are influenced with that problems. But in research, many issues and conflicts in the marriage can be solved in variety of ways including effective communications and calming down and talk with each other in a nice way. The detail of the life is important as well. Attitude, behavior and eye contacts are the ‘shooters’ of the marriage issues. The ways of avoiding divorce including avoiding denial, assess yourself and effective communications.

1.      Avoid denial.

Many people can’t take anything in a right way.Don't deny the truth hoping it will just go away and everything will be okay. You need to take action and the first action is to accept that there's a problem so that you can set about working to resolve it. They must be tackled as soon as possible.

2.        Assess yourself.

This may sound contrary if you are not the one asking for a divorce but an evaluation of yourself is a good way to start looking at what factors may have caused a divorce to come up. Are you the same size as when you were married or have you put on weight and let your appearance slip? Do you take the time to make yourself attractive to your spouse or do you take them for granted. Sometimes divorce can be the result of failing to take care of ourselves which directly impacts how your mate feels about you. Love needs intensive cares and effective communications.

3.      effective communications

  Communication is the source of every human relation. We need to have a good communication with our partners to avoid divorce. Effective communication can let you and your partner to express your feeling and solve any problems that might be happened. Bad communication will only lead you to a divorce since it will hit your marriage each time arguments happen. You need to set communication as your priority. Do not hide every single thing from your partner. Let them know your current feeling and emotion. Let them know too what is going on in your life right now. It proves that you do not hide anything from them. 

  We will still face the marriage one day. Although the whole process is tough and complicated. We have to take our responsibilities and be nice to our partners who will spend the whole life with you and your kids. Divorce is not a good result for anyone who loves you and concerns your marriage. Spending a whole life with your love is a fantastic thing for me despite rich or poor. We must stop divorce and make the relationship between couple better as long as you can!

                                                                Tony

The Thought After Watching "Grave Of The Fireflies"

My Thoughts After Watching “Grave Of The Fireflies”

The world was in chaos during the WW2. The atrocities of war exist everywhere in Japan. Bombs falling from the sky. War-planes shooting innocent people. A boy and his sister, orphaned when their mother was killed in a bomb raid, were left to survive on their own in what remains of civilization in Japan. The things happened and the emotions between the pair of brother and sister showed me what real kinship is. Fireflies appeared many times in the movie when they are in the darkness. The light from the fireflies represented their hope, guiding and supporting them.

  Grave of the Fireflies is a touching but extremely painful movie. The movie is not about introducing how fierce the war atrocities were. On the contrary, it showed the sibling love from a typical nuclear family. When their mother was killed in the bombing of Tokyo near the end of World War II, teenager Seita and his little sister, Setsuko, were left on their own: their father is away, serving in the Imperial Navy. The two children initially stayed with an aunt, but she has little affection for them and resents the time and money they require. Soon, they decided to leave their aunt and set up home in a cave by a stream, but their meager resources were quickly exhausted, and Seita is reduced to stealing to feed his sister. The scene when Seita was beaten up by the farmer after he was caught stealing food really touched me.

I have many thoughts after watching this movie. Nobody can live without their family. Cherishing and keep a good relationship with my parent are very important to me. As an international student who has just left my family in Shanghai to study in Singapore, I am no longer able to spend as much time with my parents. This is the first time I am leaving home alone and after watching the movie, I wanted to call them, to talk to them and to tell them not to worry about me. They have given me too much and I think the best I can do to return their love will be my good study results. I also cannot help but feel that I have taken too many things for granted. I cannot imagine if I lose my parents one day. Time goes by more quickly than we realize. It seems like yesterday when I was still a child, and, today, I am already an adult, living and taking care of myself away from home. Time files so we have to cherish the time with our family, and to give them more care and love.

  In the movie, Seita takes on all the responsibilities of an elder brother and was forced to steal the food from the field at midnight for his sister. Watching the movie actually made me very envious of Setsuko. I am so touched by the sibling love from Seita. Unfortunately, due to the one-child policy in China, I do not have an elder sibling who can take care of me or a younger sibling whom I can shower my love. I will like to have a younger sibling whom I can take of because I think a strong sense of responsibility is important to men.

  No one said life is a bed of roses. While we are very fortunate not to have to experienced war, I have seen on the news of people suffering and families torn apart due to natural disasters. Watching the movie also reminded me of the 2008 Sichuan earthquake, which saw 200,000 people die and thousands of families torn apart. Floods, caused by the earthquake, wiped out entire villages and swallowed the lives of innocent people that stood in its way. But like the movie, hope still exists. Despite the disaster, we saw many Chinese people, and friends from all over the world, come to Sichuan to help the people after the earthquake. Even those who have lost their families came forward to help the other people who were suffering. As I watch the movie, and see the fireflies, which represent hope, I see the hope back at home as lives and houses were rebuilt, and in some places, after three years, a brand new city was built.

Around the world, there are still so many people living in bad situations. We are very fortunate to have a good education, a loving family and so many friends to spend our time. If there are lessons the movie has taught me, it will be that we should never take things for granted and to always cherish the things we have and our time with our family. Also, when things become difficult, we must remember that there is always hope, persevere and it will become better. 

Tony

Whatever about myself.......

Hi lecturer Ken,
 

  I am Tony Wang from China.Having been new here in singapore since i came here on the 21st of June. I am fully confident that i will mix with the lifesytles and the calssmates from all over the wrold.Now its the time to talk sometheing about myself.As i said on class.I am really crazy about coffee and a collector of  starbucks tumblers as well.I have 120 tumblers and 100mugs.I buy them in different designs,and there are many stories inside.
  Music plays an important role in my daily life as .I love listening music on my school bus everyday.I like playing the guitar because it helps me relaxed after studying for a wole day.Moreover,I love playing basketball games with my roomates from my hostel.We all have the similar hobbies and lifestyles.I was a team member in my high school swimming team in frogstyle and i even tried to get an license of the life guard.

  My dream was used to be a gourmet when i was in middle school.OTAH,prawn noodles,Hainan chiken rice are all my favourite local food.By the way,I am an extrovert so i am interested in communicating with others.So that is the reason i am going to take marketing and Public Relations after the foundation. 

Best regards,

Tony

Something about myself

Hi lecturer Ken,
 

  I am Tony Wang from China.Having been new here in singapore since i came here on the 21st of June. I convince that i can mix with the lifesytle and the calssmtes from all over the wrold well.Okay talk sometheing about myself.As i said on class.I am a mad of coffee and am a collector of  starbucks tumblers.I have 120 tumblers and 100mugs.That sounds crazy ah?
  Music plays an important role in my daily life as well.I listen music on my school bus everyday.I like playing the guitar because i feel relaxed while playing this after studying for a wole day.Moreover,I love playing basketball games with my roomates in my hostel.We all have the similar hobbies and lifestyles.I was a team member in my high school swimming group in frog and i even tried to get an license of the safe guard.

  My dream was used to be a gourmet when i was in middle school.OTHA,prawn noodles,Hainan chiken rice are all my favourite local food.By the way,I am an extrovert so i am interested in communicating with others.So that is the reason i am going to take marketing and Public Relations after the foundation. 

  Hope that we will have a smooth cooperation in the future.Thank you.

 

Best regards,

Tony